Arguments aren’t about facts. They’re about emotions — your feelings — so make statements about your self.
4. DO keep in mind that fights are about feelings, perhaps not facts.
“You always do [awful thing] each time we [activity] and I’m tired of it!”
“You worry about [person, spot, or thing] more than you worry about me personally!”
“You don’t give a shit about [person, spot, or thing]!”
They are maybe not facts. They are your emotions, your perceptions. Your perception as a person is trained from an incredible number of several years of development to identify causation and pattern. Read More